What to Say in a Love Song for Your Wife

The problem with writing a love song for your wife is not finding nice things to say. It is that the nice things are interchangeable. "You are my everything" has been sung to several million women. What has not been sung is the specific thing she does that you would miss first.

Start there and the song becomes hers. That is the whole method behind personalized romantic songs, and it is simpler than it sounds.

Songs go to husbands far more often than wives

Something the Aamras order data shows clearly: of the romantic, anniversary and apology briefs written so far, 64 were for a husband and 23 for a wife. Nearly three to one.

Read that as an opportunity rather than a statistic. A wife who receives a song built around her is receiving something that, statistically, most women in her position do not get. The gift is uncrowded.

What husbands tend to leave out

The briefs that come in for wives are not short. They average 684 characters, longer than the husband directed ones. They are usually long in the wrong place: heavy on how he feels, light on what she does.

A song can only sing what it is told. So alongside the feeling, write down:

• What she carries. The thing that would collapse in a week if she stopped doing it. Most households have one and most husbands can name it in two seconds.
• What she gave up. The job, the city, the version of the plan that was hers. Naming it out loud, in a song, is not a small thing.
• A habit you find funny. Affection without a little teasing reads as a speech.
• The name you call her when nobody is listening.

Do not write the wedding

Wedding photos already cover the wedding. The years since are the part nobody documented, and 45 of the briefs in this family name a specific milestone or number of years, usually because that is where the real material is.

The third year, the hard one, the move, the illness, the stretch where neither of you was at your best. A song that includes those and still ends warmly is a song about a marriage. A song that only includes the good parts is a song about a wedding.

The line test

Before you commit to a detail, run it through one question: could this sentence be true of somebody else's wife? If yes, it is not finished.

• "She is always calm" could be anyone. "She was the calm one at the hospital" is her.
• "She works so hard" could be anyone. "She marked papers until one in the morning for eleven years" is her.
• "She makes the house a home" could be anyone. "Nothing in this house is where I would have put it, and everything is better for it" is her.

Three sentences that pass this test are more than enough for a song. Most people stop at zero and write feelings instead, which is why most love songs sound alike.

A note on voice

If she has heard you sing exactly once, at a wedding, badly, there is a decision to make. A song sung by a voice that is not yours can still be from you, the way a letter written in your handwriting is not more sincere than one typed. Pick the voice and the language you would actually speak in, and the rest takes care of itself.

The same principle runs through the version of this written for husbands, and through starting from a single memory rather than trying to summarise everything.

How to actually make it

Write the details plainly, choose a language and a mood, read the lyrics and change whatever is wrong before anything is recorded. A fully personalized song is INR 249, and a NameDrop song with her name in a ready made track is INR 149. Start here.

Quick questions

What if she is not sentimental?

Then do not make a sentimental song. Funny works, and it ages better in a house where nobody is naturally soppy.

How long does it take?

Minutes. The writing down of details takes longer than the song does.

Can I change the lyrics?

Yes, before the song is generated. Nothing is recorded until the words are right.